Love and Sex: A Wisdom of Age Position…

Many years ago there was an installment of Dear Abby’s advice column that used equations to relate love and sex. In a nutshell, she made the point that love without sex does not equal zero. She, of course, is right, but there is so much more to consider. I have done a lot of reading lately of the works of Marianne Williamson, and that reading has inspired the following thesis:

The most basic equations on this topic are the following:

SEX = LOVE
LOVE = SEX

which are rigorously the same equation, but I have a reason for listing them both. Clearly, even a semi-enlightened person would agree that these equations are false. There is no direct relationship, particularly in today’s world between these two concepts. You can clearly have love without sex and vice versa. That would mean that the following equations are also incorrect:

SEX – LOVE = 0
LOVE – SEX = 0

So, if we accept that these equations are both incorrect, then either love or sex must have a greater value than the other. The complicating factor is that the determination of which is greater is completely dependent on the individual and their place in their life. Consider the range of possibilities for the first equation:

SEX – LOVE = [PLEASURE, NEEDINESS, MANIPULATION, CODEPENDENCY, RELEASE]

and a whole host of other possibilities (feel free to expand in the comments section below). If we believe in God, we believe that we were given free will, and the ability to have sex is a wonderful expression of our free will. Unfortunately, we may have used sex for the purposes listed above and many that I have not listed. The issue, as I see it, is that sex without love can be destructive. There are many implications for a dysfunctional relationship, and the added risk of an unplanned pregnancy. In fact, I would propose that we can lump “sex without love” in with a lot of other vices of today’s world that, when indulged to excess, are counterproductive. And I am thinking of food, alcohol, drugs, and any other means we have of dulling our senses to get through the day.

On the other hand:

LOVE – SEX = [HEALTHY, GLOBAL, HONORING OF GOD, FOR THE WHOLE HUMAN RACE]

and again, a whole host of other possibilities (and again, feel free to expand in the comments section below). The writings of Marianne Williamson teach that love is the manifestation of God that exists in each and every one of his creations, and if you are reading this that includes you! Sharing the love we have in our hearts allows us to expand our influence on the world, and helps bring people together for the common good. Love is the one universal concept, the one universal language that can stop the madness in today’s world and move us to a higher plane of cooperation.

That being said, I propose that the correct equation is:

LOVE >>>>>>>>>>>>> SEX

meaning that love is much greater than sex, and sharing that love improves the odds that you can change your life and bring yourself closer to your full potential. Find a way to share your love, and you can be happy! Find a way to have a career sharing your love, and you will never work another day in your life!!! And love is one of those rare things in our world that are truly multiplied when we share it with others!!!!

Until Next Time!
Julius